6 Ways To Take Back Control In Your Life
Have you ever felt like your life is spinning out of control?
At times it can feel like you are watching from the sidelines as your life falls victim to circumstances seemingly outside of your control. Why can’t disaster strike when you are young and energetic enough to start over or when you have the time and resources available to take it in your stride? But there’s no point in complaining or wallowing in self-pity...because there’s never a good time and the world keeps turning anyway so you just gotta deal.
That's easier said than done when it's difficult to make even the simplest decisions. When dishes are left unwashed for days, clutter building up so high it overshadows your ability to act and to think, it’s hard to even have a shower let alone find the motivation to exercise, cook and otherwise look after yourself.
The good news is that you do have the power to reclaim and/or recreate the life you want. Having recently been through a tough time myself, and with a fitness business to run and an 8-year old to raise, I had to find a way to regain control over my life. So how did I get my focus back?
Here’s a few simple techniques I used to regain control over the controllable bits of my life. If you ever find your life spiralling out of control, then these 6 tips could help you too:
On Saturday I did a big...
#1 Clean and Declutter
I had to get rid of the clutter that was a constant source of distraction and anxiety - it’s like everywhere I turned there was a block in the form of clutter that made it hard to work, think and function around.
I strongly believe that clutter causes stress and chaos, not just in our homes, but also in our minds. Decluttering your home frees up space both physically and mentally. It causes further stress and overwhelm at a time when you least need it.
The hardest part for me was starting. I didn’t know where to start. It seemed like the situation had gotten out of hand and had become a challenge too big to tackle.
So to get over this hurdle I made a deal with myself: “I’m going to drink this coffee and when I’m done I will start with the most important room first” - which for me is the study. A tidy and clean study represents a clear and organised brain. So that’s what I did. I drank my coffee and then I got the mop and bucket, cleaning cloths and the old Ajax Spray and Wipe and got down to business. Once I got started I found it was easy to keep going. So I did. For the next 6 hours.
I filled 11 garbage bags full of clutter that either went into the rubbish bin or went to charity. Offloading my son’s old clothes and books into the Coles charity bins felt like a weight being lifted off my shoulders. Binning the rubbish gave me instant relief.
When you don't know where or how to start, I highly recommend starting with this strategy for helping you get your focus back during a stressful time. It really does work.
On Sunday I did...
#2. Food prep
If you’re not familiar with the term, food prep just means cooking in large amounts so you can divide up cooked food into portions in tupperware to provide you with ready meals for the next few days. It also means simply preparing what you can in advance to make life easier. For example, washing my salad greens in the morning makes the salad quicker to prepare at dinner.
The point of food prep is to make your life easier. Honestly, who has the time or desire to cook every meal from scratch every single day? Food prep is just a way to reduce stress around what you are going to eat. Food prep guarantees that no matter what happens in your day-to-day life, you will always have good, clean, natural food to eat. Food that makes your body and mind feel good.
Without the need to cook today, I can now sit at my desk and concentrate on writing this blog and feel productive and positive.
On Sunday night I planned my Monday..
#3. Plan Your Day or Week In Advance
On Sunday night I sat down and planned out my Monday and wrote it all up on my whiteboard. The whiteboard really works for me because I can put it where I see it often - an A4 sheet stuck on your fridge works just as well - and it’s big and important looking. It’s a way of diarising my day. If I diarise something, it’s like making an appointment, you attach priority to it and are therefore more likely to actually do what needs to be done.
So far so good, I’m on track.
I diarised my exercise for Monday...
#4. Keep Up With Exercise
What do you do when you know exercise helps but it’s the last thing on your mind when your world feels like its crashing down around you?
As hard is it can be, getting your exercise in has a lot of mental and physical benefits. Exercise is a proven stress-buster and mood-enhancer. Exercises produces feel-good chemicals called endorphins which lift your mood and help you feel positive and reduce anxiety. And it’s just good to get out of the confines of your own mind and go be amongst other humans in a healthy environment.
The best advice that I can give here knowing how hard it has been for me lately is again to diarise it so it becomes a priority. If heading off to a fitness class and being amongst other people is just too much too soon, then perhaps start with a power walk or a short jog and as the benefits kick in you will feel able to do more.
For me on Monday, a power-walk was what I felt I could deal with.
I decided I needed to start setting boundaries…
#5. Set Boundaries
As a small business owner I am guilty of having fallen into the trap of living and breathing my business 24/7. One of the most important things that I have unfortunately learned the hard way is that you need to set boundaries between your work life and your personal life. Being able to switch off from work allows you to live your personal life ‘in the moment’ and helps you preserve your relationships and your mental and psychological health.
Set your phone to Do Not Disturb after 7pm so you are not tempted to answer phone calls, check your emails or otherwise stay distracted and torn between home and work. Diarise your off time (I’ve put it on my whiteboard) to make you hurry up and finish your work tasks so you can stay on target for off-duty time.
I made an appointment to wax my scary legs...
#6. Take Some Me-Time For Self-Care
Schedule a chunk of one day for self-care appointments. Do all those self-care things you’ve been putting off that almost feel like you are punishing yourself even more. Make the appointment to go and get your legs and bikini waxed, make the appointment to get your haircut and get your greys dyed, then go and get your nails done. Just to feel human again.
Now I’m not saying that practicing these tips will fix the problem. But practicing these tips has helped me feel more in control and more able to cope with the stress I'm experiencing in my life. I am feeling a lot clearer and focused today and that can only be a good thing.
Trainer and Body Transformations Coach
Dynamic Boxing Fitness
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