You want to lose weight SO BADLY…and then you put the weight back on…and it’s not the first time this has happened. It’s the same pattern over and over and over again…the pattern to failure! So then why on earth do we keep repeating this same old pattern when it’s ultimately going to result in the same thing, FAILURE?
Well…that’s self-sabotage for you.
Self sabotage means any behaviour, thought, emotion or action that holds you back from what you CONSCIOUSLY want.
And it’s got to do with your UNCONSCIOUS mind trying to protect you from disappointment by keeping you in your comfort zone – the zone of familiarity regardless of whether this zone is not necessarily a good thing. Your unconscious doesn’t like surprises. I mean can you imagine you did everything right, you gave it 100% for months and months and months and you didn’t lose weight? How devastating that would be? That’s what your subconscious is trying to protect you from.
So it keeps you in your comfort zone even though CONSCIOUSLY it’s not what you want…at least it’s an expected, familiar outcome.
Now there’s a lot of METHODS that we use to sabotage our own success. Working in health, fitness and weight loss, I’ve identified several that pop up time and time again during my Body Transform Challenges.
Recognise the self-sabotage behaviour and identify the trigger that causes it. For example mindless eating is the self-sabotage behaviour and the trigger is stress. Come up with replacement behaviour. Here’s some examples:
Make Your Excuses Invalid by making exercise and healthy eating non-negotiable. Diarise and prioritise your exercise. Don’t think too hard about it, just turn up…the way you would to a doctor’s appointment or to a scheduled meeting with your accountant. Don’t make a big deal about it. Remove temptation foods from the house. If it’s not there, you can’t eat it. If you hear yourself making excuses to relax your healthy eating or to not train, but a big red stop sign up in your head and say NO! Remember all the reasons why you are working hard to achieve your goals and how far you’ve come.
Create A Support Group Around You. This could be your family, friends and colleagues at work – people who would support you every step of the way and help you stay on the straight and narrow. When self-sabotage behaviour is about to kick in, call on them for support. Sometimes a quick, reassuring chat in person or on the phone is enough to help you get back in control.
Practise, Practise, Practise…that’s why we have 8 weeks! Beyond the challenge keep practising…reflect and write notes in your diary to help you. Use your Affirmations, Vision board and other tools we’ve learned to use during the course of the program.
Accept That Things Will NEVER Be Perfect. The timing of a challenge won’t be perfect, the classes aren’t quite at the times you’d like them to be, it’s a bit of a squeeze to get your appointments in, one week you lose 1kg and the next week it’s 300gm. There is never a perfect time and things will never go perfectly. Perfectionism reduces your ability to take action and move forward. Forget being perfect and go for getting things done. Done is better than perfect because you are MOVING in the right direction instead of being stalled while you wait for perfect. A 300gm loss is still moving in the right direction!
Whatever you do, Don’t Punish yourself if you fall off the bandwagon temporarily. Punishing yourself by saying “I have no willpower”, “I’m just hopeless”, “I’ll never be any good at this” … etc will only keep you in the vicious cycle and reinforce to your unconscious mind why it needs to keep sabotaging you. Instead just move on, keep going. Remember how you look is the sum of what you do consistently, not what you do occasionally. Consistently means months and years…not days.
In this video, I’ve summarised the key points of self-sabotage:
Do you need help losing weight? If you’re ready to let go of your self-sabotaging patterns, ready to lose the monkey on your back and finally move towards happiness in your own skin and in your life, then it’s time. Click the link below and let me know you’re ready to not only transform your body but your life as well: